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mumma9481
Hi ladies, I just had my 3rd baby girl on 17th April and I am absolutely in love with my 3 beautiful girls. My partner only wanted 2 children but when I got pregnant with my 3rd we were both excited (especially me because I wanted 3 all along) but I was sure she would definitely be my last! Now that she's here as much as I've enjoyed these past 2 days of not being pregnant anymore I'm a little sad this may be my last time to ever do these things š I'm not even sure what my question is but does anyone else feel this way after initially thinking they were done with having babies?
Also everyone keeps asking if we're gonna keep trying for a boy or have we given up. I couldn't care less if I had all girls and neither does my partner even though everyone else seems to feel so sorry for him! So it's definitely not about having a boy at all and I don't want people to think that way if we did end up going for a 4th even though I know I shouldn't care.
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ElizabethCon87
Very similar here just had my 3rd boy and were over the moon.
I'd happily keep having kids but my oh is adamant this is our last, it makes sense from a financial perspective to stop now and in my head I feel its right that this is our last but my heart is broken to be honest that I'll never do this again. I'm 6 days pp and finding myself way more teary post partum than before. I think it may be my realisation that this chapter is closing for me and honestly I'm devastated. I'm hoping things will settle down for me soon and I can make peace with it all.
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mumma9481
@ElizabethCon87,
I just got teary reading your comment! it's such a bitter sweet feeling. Hoping I can make peace with it all also I'm sure we'll both make the right decisions for ourselves and our families when the time comes x
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Pikarosemom
I get it. I just had my third child but itās my manās first and my girls are teenagers so I was almost hoping we would have another close to this one but the man is 47 and I donāt think he wants 2 little ones to raise in his 50ās. Iām happy with my little peanut and will let the man decide when to get snipped since Iām done being the primary birth control.
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tyedyememories
I just had my third too! Sheās 10 days old and the sweetest little thing.
Iāve always wanted 4 kids. I never wanted 3 because 3 is an odd number and thereās a middle child. I also love kids and work with them as my job every day and have for YEARS.
I just talked to my best friend about this yesterday - I think Iām done. This, however, also stems from the fact that I had GD and eventually cholestasis, and it feels like things have been getting worse with each of my pregnancies. Iām not sure I could do that again.
Even still, things feel really good with 3. Their love for each other already, the way they interact, etc. Itās so nice and it just feels right.
Could I have a 4th? Probably. And weāll cross that bridge when Iām not 10 days PP. But it does feel good and I could be happy and feel complete with my three.
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almc
@tyedyememories,
I was the middle with an older sister and younger brother. They are my absolute best friends and growing up people always commented to my parents āyour kids actually like each other? How are they so close??ā To this day they still are my best friends and I would rather hang out with them than anyone else lol. As the middle child, I can say my parents never pitted us against one another and just embraced us for who we were. Iām done at 2 but when I think of my siblings, I sometimes feel I could do 3; however GD with two pregnancies is enough to scare me from it being certain with a third!
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tyedyememories
@almc,
thatās amazing to hear! ļæ½ļæ½ my first two are so close and absolutely love and adore each other (2 boys, 6 and 3.5). They are head over heels for their baby sister, too. My husband is the youngest of three and doesnāt really talk to either of his siblings.
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mumma9481
@tyedyememories,
Love this š
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pawebi
Im also on baby #3 and all through my pregnancy kept going back and forth about being done after this one. But when they say you just know, itās true. After baby came, as absolutely in love I am with her, I know we are done and sheās our final piece. I feel complete and itās not a feeling I had before after any of my kids.
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babyavez
So I just had my boy after 4 girls. Iām done now but not because we got the boy. Truly because weāre out of room in the car. I feel like I should do something permanent but I canāt bring myself to do it yet.
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mumma9481
@babyavez,
Oh that's a whole other issue having to upgrade the car š we all still fit in a 5 seater for now x
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BabyMSS
I just posted about this yesterday. I just had my third boy. I said all pregnancy I was done. My body does not do well being pregnant but I do not have that done feeling. My boys are so freaking perfect I just want more. Someone asked me in my post if I had a girl this time would I have felt done and I said absolutely not because then I wouldnāt have my little guy now. Itās not about gender
Financially and physically I donāt think I could di it again. Mentally I want another. My husband has his snip consult today and itās devastating. But I know itās not just my decision and heās done.
I donāt know if Iād ever feel done.
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tyedyememories
@BabyMSS,
I kinda feel like this, too! Iām definitely in a different spot now, after having my third, then I was after having my second. After my second, I knew that I would not feel settled or complete if we stopped there. I would be OK if something had happened and we couldnāt have anymore, but if we could have more, I wasnāt happy Stopping at two. Now, I could be OK being done. I could be happy with my little family of five and call it a day there. But, at the end of the day, would I love to have more? Absolutely! I think about some thing that I read recently regarding how you want your table to look in 20 years down the road. Three is good, but I definitely love to have more. Iād love the chaos and craziness of having a lot of children and their significant others and hopefully one day grandchildren in my home running around talking, laughing, enjoying each other.
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mumma9481
@BabyMSS,
This is exactly how I feel! š
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brr0619
Weāve always said no more than two and we are expecting our second. Iām having my tubes removed 6 weeks pp. I donāt think Iāll change my mind, but Iām basically not giving myself the chance to change my mind or have an oops baby down the road. This pregnancy was so much harder than my first and I donāt want to do it again.
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PdxMommy2024
honestly, Iām 2 weeks postpartum with my first and thinking Iām done. ļæ½ļæ½
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laurenwilsey
Itās so hard to know when to be done for me. Iām pregnant with my fourth and even now, itās sad to think that I would maybe never give birth again or have a newborn again. My kids all love each other so much and it is so amazing to watch them all have relationships with each other and have their own personalities. How do you decide when youāve had enough of that? Iām hoping at some point we will just feel complete and know.
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mumma9481
@laurenwilsey,
That's exactly what I was expecting to feel after giving birth but I don't feel done lol š
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ambbyy
I just had my 3rd girl as week 3 weeks ago and while I was pregnant I felt confused if I wanted more or not
But after I had her and bringing her home to my girls
I feel/felt very content and that confusion just went away like I personally know Iām done and donāt think at least as of now that I will try again for another
Iām not opposed to having a 4th if it happens to happen on āaccidentā
But just canāt foresee myself and husband trying for another
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